We Only Fall in Love with 3 People in Our Lifetime - Each One for a Specific Reason.

“Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning.” -Unknown

It’s been said that we really only fall in love with three people in our lifetime.

Yet, it’s also believed that we need each of these loves for a different reason.

Often our first love fulfills the dreams of our youth and fulfills our idealistic belief of what we expect love to look like  – just like the fairy tales.

This love fulfills our need to live up to society’s expectations. We jump into this love headfirst believing that this person will be our only love (even if it does not feel quite right) and convince ourselves that this is how love should look like. This love focuses more on how others perceive us versus how we actually feel.

The emotions and young hormones will have you believe that no other love could ever exist for you. You will want to spend every waking moment together and your friends will support this choice of love for your life as well.

To the world around you, this love will seem like the perfect choice and many will be envious…until it ends, and it will end abruptly. Unfortunately, those unending emotions will end and you will wonder why you ever loved this person in the first place. With the magnitude in which you loved, you will discard and move on with scars that fade quickly. This love, although stronger than all existence, at the moment of climax, was just there to show you what love really feels like. It’s time to move into deeper waters.

The second love is when shit gets real. It’s called the “hard love”. This is where we delve deep into our sexuality and our desires. This is the love that teaches us lessons about ourselves and what we need to feel loved in any relationship. This love brings with it great pain – the pain of loss, deceit and lies.

During this love we believe we are doing things differently, but we are not.  We tend to hold steadfast to this love because this relationship is different from the last one. However, this one is the one where we will grow. This is the one where we will experience pain. And this is the love where we will realize what we really need out of our next relationship.

With this kind of love, trying to make it work becomes more important than whether it actually should.

It’s the love that we wished was right.

 Most of the time, when the second love doesn’t work --it leaves the deepest of scars. The good news? You’ve learnt a TON about who you are and what you really want in life.

And the third is the love we never see coming. When you meet this person, you’d never consider that you’d end up with them.

Perhaps you’re not looking for a relationship, or you think that you’re personalities would clash, but when the connection ignites, it will take off like a lightning strike that neither one of you are prepared for.

The third love will keep coming around. You will keep crossing paths no matter how much you try to get away from this magnetic feeling. Time will be no object of concern for the third love. If it’s true, they will feel the pull just as powerfully as you do. And it will just feel right.

When you start dating, it just fits. Your personalities bounce off each other like a trampoline. You compliment each other’s strengths and weakness and you both feel like you take on the world.

It just feels right. And so it should. You’ve been through struggles, bad breakups, and people who have just plain tried to take advantage of you.

But now, you know yourself better than ever, and most importantly, you know deep in your soul that you want to spend the rest of your life with this truly special person.

This is the love that keeps knocking on our door regardless of how long it takes us to answer.

It’s the love that just feels right.


The one we never see coming.
The one that actually lasts.
The one that shows us why it never worked out before.


“You found parts of me I didn’t know existed and in you I found a love I no longer believed was real.” ~ Unknown